There are lots of things we want to do but…….

There are many things which we like to do but…. not now, may be after this or that. Currently I have different priorities and so on, time is not available, ‘first life me settle hona hai’ etc etc the list of excuses or genuine reasons never ends.


There are many techniques available to get started. Somebody may say that write down all your wishes, then priorities them, then put time schedule, start with easier one etc. but still the initial start is missing. WHY? What could be the reason for this? What is that holding us back and not allowing us to act?


The main and the fundamental reason I feel is that we only think, we do not feel it and second reason is we have been conditioned to evaluate with opposite side in our mind. Like, we plan to enjoy when we feel bored. Or take rest when we are tired. I will take leave today because I am feeling not energetic. Action and reaction has become our way of life. I have never heard from somebody that I am happy today and energetic so I want to take leave from the regular work and do something new.


Let me explain this. We want to get enjoyed but we have never trained ourselves to enjoy without evaluation. For example, we decide for a trip to Goa. If everything goes as per our expectation, then our normal reaction would be “I enjoyed my trip”. If the few things were not as expectation, which matters most, then may be our reaction would be, ‘ok, fine, it was good’ etc. The point is our level of enjoyment, happiness, frustration everything depends on our evaluation and our evaluation system. We are constantly in the process of evaluation & it applies to everything even to our relationship.


What is the connection of above example and the subject of the article? The connection is that we only think of doing but never really feel of doing it. Like in Goa trip, we evaluated our happiness but seldom felt our happiness. The best example of feeling the enjoyment and happiness is when we play with children’s. That time the evaluation mode is off and true sense of enjoyment is felt.


Exactly this is what happens with our list of wishes which we want to do. We think we want to do so many things in life but seldom feel or realize them doing. The feelings are missing. We are not aware about our feelings. once we become aware about them, then automatically rest action will happen without evaluation. And this action without evaluation will motivate us further to achieve the rest. Feelings normally declare the result of the activity which we are going to do. Remember the result day of schooling and feelings associated before getting the results.